The following are planned blog posts that are in various states of planning and production, which are to be posted over the coming year. I have broken them down by general topic areas.
CONFLICT
Imagine a World without Conflict (Boring!)
Conflict: A Normal, Expectable, and Healthy Aspect of Life
Internal and Interpersonal Conflict: Two Sides of the Same Coin
Internal Conflict: Reconciling Opposing Values
Interpersonal Conflict: A Vehicle for Balance in Relationships
Conflict: Internalizers and Externalizers
“I Hate Drama!” – “Oh, Really?”
Resolving Conflict with Effective Self-Expression, Active Listening, and Negotiation
Eight Styles of Dealing with Conflict and Their Assets and Liabilities
Submission and Rebellion: Two Versions of Being Controlled by Others
Independence: Beyond Submission and Rebellion
Interdependence: Beyond Dependence and Independence and into Mutuality
Conflict: Polarization Versus Resolution
Dialectics: from Thesis and Antithesis To Synthesis
PARADOXES IN EVERYDAY LIFE
Problems and Paradoxes
Life’s Polar Opposites: Not as Simple as It May Seem
When Conflicts Are Paradoxes
Individuality and Belonging: Being Apart from and Being a Part of
Order/Structure Versus Spontaneity/Freedom
Security/Stagnation Versus Excitement/Danger
Being/Living in the Present Versus Becoming/Building a Future: You Can’t Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too
The Pleasure Principle and the Reality Principle: Revisiting Freud
Selfishness Versus Selflessness
Using Others Versus Relating to Others
Free Will and Determinacy
Causality: the Linearity of Cause and Effect Versus the Curvilinear Interaction of Systems
We Create Our World and Our World Creates Us
Tragedy and Comedy: Two Artistic Expressions of Paradox
Byproducts of Working through Conflict Effectively: Humility, Compassion, Gratitude, and Emotional Intimacy
VICIOUS CYCLE PATTERNS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Stephen Karpman’s Persecutor – Victim – Rescuer Cycle
The Slacker – Enabler Cycle
The Perfectionist – Passive-Aggressive Cycle
What Is Codependency?
The Seeker – Sought Cycle: Pursuit and Retreat
The Snoop and Sneak Cycle: An Escalation of the Seeker – Sought Cycle
Diagramming Your Vicious Cycle to Get Perspective: Inner Experience and Outer Expression
The Challenge of Recognizing Your Own Role in a Vicious Cycle
Breaking the Cycle
Vicious Cycles in Politics: Law and Order Right-Wingers, Libertarians, And Bleeding Heart Liberals
Politics: Loyal Opposition Versus Obstructionism
Great Blog. Have saved it and will print off and read through. Tkx Dr Bob 😊
Thanks for your encouraging feedback. I’m glad you’re finding the blog interesting.
Hi Dr. Bob, great blog! I can tell you have put a great deal of time and energy into the articles/blogs. Have you thought about writing one on how to motivate substance abusers to get rid of the excuses and get to work on the real issues?